How Can You Mend a Broken Heart.......

What do you say to a girlfriend who finds out her husband, that she's devoted to, has been using "porn" as his partner instead of her? Perhaps I hurt so much for her because I've heard her tell others "Our relationship is based on trust." "I don't keep things from my husband." "I love my husband." She's so devoted to him and he's been ignoring her and spending his time cultivating relationships with "other women" on-line. She feels betrayed, hurt, sad, sad, sad.... I think the worst thing for her is she's been telling him for 10 years that she felt something was wrong and he told her it's just the cycle that all men go through- the just slow down. Can you believe she caught him once and he said it was the only time he'd ever done it and he'd never do it again. Then three years later she finds out he'd been doing it for TEN YEARS! He thinks she should just "Get over it." I am wondering if I am not a good person to talk to because I may be too old and don't get the on-line sex thing. Mostly I don't like to see my friends so sad. She's just an empty shell right now. Her questions- how do you build the trust back (after he's lied for 10 years), why did he not talk to her, is it over, how could he lie to her when she talked to him the last ten years about feeling like their sex problems were all her fault and he knew what was wrong the whole time. I once watched a movie that said, "All men are liars." I guess I'm too much of a dreamer to accept that. Uh-oh, this got a little long. Okay ladies, let me know if I'm too old to counsel this young mom........ oh she's also upset because they have 4 children. He says he's never done anything when they were around but she can't believe him. He's mad at her because she continues to ask him questions about the "whys". It's been one week and she'd talked to him 3 times. MEN!

Giants Steps

I walked almost 5000 steps today. That is my highest since Katie and Stacey got me my pedometer. I like that I did it without trying. That was day #1 of preschool.

After doing that and eating great all day I got 4 dozen cookies at Eileens. I only ate 3. No 4. One chocolate/chocolate chunk, one oatmeal raisin, one monster, one choc/choc. Is that pathetic or what? Well, I will try again tomorrow. Dave will have them eaten by the time I get home............. did I tell you I figured out we need to eat opposite diets? Dave- low fat (cuz he has high cholesterol) and Judy- low carbs (cuz I have fat around my middle). And of course I cook the way Dave likes to eat. So now I have to figure out how to cook without having to cook two different meals. ........... I can do it.

For my warm up- me, me, me, me and a right, kick, left, kick turn repeat. Get in shape girl. One step for the pedometer one giant step toward fitness in 2010.

31 Years Ago

31 years ago we were at a youth ice cream social at our church. We were the youth sponsors and we had made homemade ice cream and cupcakes for the event. I didn't get my kitchen cleaned before we left and when we got home Dave said, "Just go to bed. I went to bed only to awaken a few hours later with a back ache- big deal, I'd made ice cream and cupcakes, helped at an ice cream social, taken care of a 17 month old and was one week overdue to have my 2nd child, who wouldn't have a back ache? Dave awoke cuz I was restless. He flew out of bed, said we were going to the hospital, called his parents to come watch son #1 and we left. I was hysterical because he wouldn't wait for his parents to make the 2 mile trip to our house. I couldn't believe we left our child alone (Dave told me could see his parents head lights coming down the road.) and was even more upset because I wasn't having contractions. 5 miles from the hospital I had my first contraction. 4 contractions later we were in the ER entryway having our baby. Scott David was born at 4:14 a.m. He was such a calm little guy. His big brother loved him so much. Our family was complete and I was the happiest mom on earth. Everyone said I didn't look like I'd just had a baby. The day I got home from the hospital I put the boys down for naps and went out to mow (it was my routine). Dave came out and asked what I thought I was doing. I realized maybe I was pushing it but I felt like a million bucks. I was so happy to be a mom and it just kept getting better............ to be continued 4/29/11.

Out with the Old

I had to help move my 84 year old mother out of her apartment- I WILL NOT LEAVE JUNK FOR MY CHILDREN TO CLEAN UP WHEN I MOVE. I enjoyed going through things with my sister but this is the third time we've gone through the same "stuff". So now I have a garage full of my/our stuff to get out of my life. We have 15 rooms in our home and I've gone through 13 of them- bath, shower, master, girls, boys, tv room (minus the board games), rec room, kitchen, living room/dining room, family room, utility room, & store room. That leaves- guest room (my mess), school room (my mess), & den (our mess). Next will be the garage. I am hoping Dave will help but if not I've done it alone before so I know I can do it again.

THEN.............. it's time for school to start and I have to clean my classroom, too.

Less is more! I want less and less- out with the old and in with the nothing!

Z-z-z-z-z

I hate being out of energy. I must regain my "Zest".

Coming Back

Stacey got a job in NE and will be moving back from FLA. People ask me all the time how I feel about her being so far away or don't I wish she'd move back. I've tried not to go there. I try to be happy for my children when they make choices. I want them to all be in my home all the time but I know I'd smother who they could be so I am more than happy to just enjoy seeing them enjoy their life experiences. (I am happy Stacey's returning to NE because that's what SHE wants.)

Now, if she could just bring some sunshine with her...............

Mimi

I love being a mom. I love being a Mimi. I love being a wife. I got to spend a day with Katie and her family. I could just sit and watch all day. I love to watch the interactions- between children, wife and husband, parent and child, child and toys. I also got to talk to Brett on the way home. We talked about Celie. He's such a great dad. He wants the world for Celie and he doesn't want to screw things up. It makes me so joyous to know he is taking being a "family man" so seriously. I am so thankful for the blessings I've received as a mom and wife. I have been hard on my children and my husband but I hope they know how much I love them. Not love but something so deep I can't find the bottom of it. I think it is close to God's Love, yes that's just what it is God's Love through my family to me. Thank you, God!